So you find yourself single and dating (perhaps after a long relationship has ended) or, at the very least, thinking about it? Do you have some preconceived notions about how it’s all going to go or should go? I know I did.
So I’m about to get personal here. A person I respect gave me some good advice the other day: “Your blogs are great but you need to be more authentic. Let people in. Talk about yourself and your experiences with dating. Your clients want to know you and the fact that you can relate.”
The more I thought about it, the more I realized he was right. In previous blogs, I have for sure drawn on my experiences to a certain extent but I’ve always stopped short of going there with accounts of my own forays into dating and relationships. Dear reader, that is about to change. Now the truth is when I meet with potential clients, I already go there. I can’t help it, actually. Where relevant, I share both because it’s natural for me, and because I know we all find connection through common experiences. So why hold back here?
I read a lot of books, research, blogs, articles, advice, and anything I can get my hands on about dating and relationships. I have a bit of a preference for any reading that looks at the lighter side of it all. Because anyone who is single knows that dating, even at its best, is ummm... humorous (even when the intention is as serious as finding your life partner).
Along the way (and especially as a Matchmaker and Dating Coach), I have learned so much about perspective, mindset, and what will get you to your goal. I want to share that here in an authentic and non-generic way. So if you are looking for the “Top 10 Tips That Will Help You Attract the Woman/Man of your Dreams!”, you won’t find it here.
I want to be as truthful as possible (warts and all) about dating because I know we all have an idea of how it should all play out. And I’m here to tell you that it will rarely work out the way we think, but it WILL work out.
Stay tuned for my next article on how you may be feeling about dating after a major split. Like how you are really feeling. I’ll talk about how we all tend to romanticize dating to a certain degree and more so if it’s been a while. And I’ll throw in some tips about improving your “game”, “mojo” or whatever you want to call it. (pssst.... how about we call it just being more “authentic”, at least that's a big part of it anyway).